Fine and better with time
Women are just like wine
Born of the earth bold and beautiful
Complex entanglement much like the vine
Smooth intoxicating grip on the mind
Women are just like wine
Appropriate for the fine engagements
Fit for the most intimate arrangements
A perfect high when consumed in moderation
A despicable low when abused for gratification
Women are just like wine
Your cool mood becomes more serene
Your passion filled moments be a dream
Get close enough to smell her
Tilt her to your lips so you can taste her
Never pour more than you can handle
Be careful not to waste her
A gift to man from god
To elevate your body and mind
Yes women are just like wine
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Love Therapy: Diminishing Misconceptions
Many of us enter into our relationships believing in certain concepts of love that could potentially damage the welfare of our relationships. These misconceptions place expectations on our partners that they may or may not have the capacity for and when they fail to meet those expectations we resent our partners and blame love. As we grow in our relationships misconceptions such as "love is a two-way street" or "love doesn't hurt" should be ruled null and void because they don't apply in a real relationship.
Love in it's most simplistic definition is "charity". Charity is a gift from one party to another without any payment or gift in return. With love being "charity" love is never always a two-way street, it's often a one way street with a stop light. I say a stop light because it's necessary to regulate just how much love you are giving out, giving too much of yourself can cause you to either forget about your own needs or be taken advantage of. When love is working the way it was planned to work then that's where the two way street is created, two people giving freely of themselves manifests the two way idea. It is not you give me some then I'll give some back. Kinda like a free way, sometimes one side has traffic and the other side has a bunch of cars flying by.
Another misconception is that "love doesn't hurt". Love hurts for the better, the very idea of love forces us to break bad habits, do things we normally don't do, and above all, be vulnerable. There will always be moments when love hurts because nothing good comes without hard work and the willingness to take a potentially painful risk. Love is meant to be done over and over again; some of us get it right the first or second time around but others have to learn the painful lessons it takes to become intimate with love and learn how to apply it in the necessary areas. We all need to learn to apply love in the most basic areas of our lives to build intimacy with it.
Love in communication: know how to communicate how u feel to someone regardless of fear or doubt. Do this knowing that it means progress and understand when you are being communicated to.
Love in relations: show love in this area not just sexually but find what makes each other feel appreciated that way you nor them feel burdened when giving.
Love in confrontation: show love when you're disagreeing. Never use hurtful information against each other otherwise that person will feel they can't be intimate with you because you will use it against them in an argument. Find a way to argue productively find a solution or just listen to what's being said and it will work out
The biggest and most powerful lie is that love doesn't exist. Find a way to destroy the barriers keeping you from loving and love selflessly and abundantly, you'll never be unsatisfied.
Love in it's most simplistic definition is "charity". Charity is a gift from one party to another without any payment or gift in return. With love being "charity" love is never always a two-way street, it's often a one way street with a stop light. I say a stop light because it's necessary to regulate just how much love you are giving out, giving too much of yourself can cause you to either forget about your own needs or be taken advantage of. When love is working the way it was planned to work then that's where the two way street is created, two people giving freely of themselves manifests the two way idea. It is not you give me some then I'll give some back. Kinda like a free way, sometimes one side has traffic and the other side has a bunch of cars flying by.
Another misconception is that "love doesn't hurt". Love hurts for the better, the very idea of love forces us to break bad habits, do things we normally don't do, and above all, be vulnerable. There will always be moments when love hurts because nothing good comes without hard work and the willingness to take a potentially painful risk. Love is meant to be done over and over again; some of us get it right the first or second time around but others have to learn the painful lessons it takes to become intimate with love and learn how to apply it in the necessary areas. We all need to learn to apply love in the most basic areas of our lives to build intimacy with it.
Love in communication: know how to communicate how u feel to someone regardless of fear or doubt. Do this knowing that it means progress and understand when you are being communicated to.
Love in relations: show love in this area not just sexually but find what makes each other feel appreciated that way you nor them feel burdened when giving.
Love in confrontation: show love when you're disagreeing. Never use hurtful information against each other otherwise that person will feel they can't be intimate with you because you will use it against them in an argument. Find a way to argue productively find a solution or just listen to what's being said and it will work out
The biggest and most powerful lie is that love doesn't exist. Find a way to destroy the barriers keeping you from loving and love selflessly and abundantly, you'll never be unsatisfied.
Sunday, July 11, 2010
Update: New series
I know its been a minute since ive actually posted something on here but i been going through some personal adjustments which left me a tad bit distracted from writing. Im going to attempt to get back into it with a series of blogs that ive been giving some thought into. the series is going to be titled "Love Therapy", focusing on getting us back to the basics of what love is and trying to rebuild ourselves in it. its going to be an interesting project so follow along and dont be timid in giving your feed back. peace!
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
When words collide
When words collide the grenade goes off and fragments fly
Diminished meanings, misunderstood feelings leave dreadful endings.
words mean nothing when clashing, just plain old jibberish and time wasting.
Sounds blurred by the wrong verbal prescription produce communication annihilation engaged by stubborn fixations of being right
Mental battles ensue in pursuit of the end of the lingual fight
Tongues lash at each other like dogs in a fight, resentment wounds that can't heal overnight leave brittle word warriors to ponder what might
What words to launch next in and out of spite.
What tongue tactics to lay back with as the oppositions counter attacks miss
Miscued notions envelope mislead feelings. the once ever repetitive and evernew "we" crushed into a complulsive so impulsive "me" and "I"
The blind word shot from the pistol of pride deflected by a sheild of ego let's the solution hide behind the eyes
The fault is an unsolved mytery of mind but it's launched from self to shelf so guilt is never dealt
In the end after the debri has cleared when the smoke and dust have settled notice the casulties were few
The count came back as a total of two
Me and you
Diminished meanings, misunderstood feelings leave dreadful endings.
words mean nothing when clashing, just plain old jibberish and time wasting.
Sounds blurred by the wrong verbal prescription produce communication annihilation engaged by stubborn fixations of being right
Mental battles ensue in pursuit of the end of the lingual fight
Tongues lash at each other like dogs in a fight, resentment wounds that can't heal overnight leave brittle word warriors to ponder what might
What words to launch next in and out of spite.
What tongue tactics to lay back with as the oppositions counter attacks miss
Miscued notions envelope mislead feelings. the once ever repetitive and evernew "we" crushed into a complulsive so impulsive "me" and "I"
The blind word shot from the pistol of pride deflected by a sheild of ego let's the solution hide behind the eyes
The fault is an unsolved mytery of mind but it's launched from self to shelf so guilt is never dealt
In the end after the debri has cleared when the smoke and dust have settled notice the casulties were few
The count came back as a total of two
Me and you
Sunday, May 9, 2010
Happy mothers day
Mother oh the mayhem we've caused you, the ups and downs, the smiles and frowns we've given you
All taken in and accepted by love, so We thank you.
Mother oh how we struggled to understand the pressure we put you under, the ways we thought we were ready for life and disobeyed you, the way you sheilded us when it was only fair for our consequences to be dealt unto us, for that We thank you.
Oh mother how We thank you for your priceless, timeless love, the optimism and wisdom that made you invest in the greatest faith in us, there is nothing more we would love to do than to say thank you.
Even in the times when our capacity to understand why you put your foot down was non existant, We knew you loved us.
Just like the times when the lash of your tongue crumbled out pride and reminded us we were not yet an adult, it was no doubt our my mind you loved us.
For the sake of your child; whether born unto you or taken in, you made the sacrifice of the ultimate charity and gave us your infinite love.
We honor you from the deepest caverns of my soul and thank you with every drop of passion our existence on this earth has given us. You are my mother and We love you and you are appreciated with an insurmountable joy, excitement, and longevity.
Sincerely,
Your child
All taken in and accepted by love, so We thank you.
Mother oh how we struggled to understand the pressure we put you under, the ways we thought we were ready for life and disobeyed you, the way you sheilded us when it was only fair for our consequences to be dealt unto us, for that We thank you.
Oh mother how We thank you for your priceless, timeless love, the optimism and wisdom that made you invest in the greatest faith in us, there is nothing more we would love to do than to say thank you.
Even in the times when our capacity to understand why you put your foot down was non existant, We knew you loved us.
Just like the times when the lash of your tongue crumbled out pride and reminded us we were not yet an adult, it was no doubt our my mind you loved us.
For the sake of your child; whether born unto you or taken in, you made the sacrifice of the ultimate charity and gave us your infinite love.
We honor you from the deepest caverns of my soul and thank you with every drop of passion our existence on this earth has given us. You are my mother and We love you and you are appreciated with an insurmountable joy, excitement, and longevity.
Sincerely,
Your child
Saturday, April 24, 2010
Another awful truth
The prevalent declination of faith of obtaining a solid relaionship in our peers has made the "free flowing" relationship ever so prominent amongst our generation. Thoughts of building solid relationships with another is slowly fading out of the hearts and minds of the many that surround us, why? Is it because our male and female counterparts lack the tools and fundamentals that are essential in building or strenghtening the foundations they place their relationships on? Maybe it's the lack of integrity our men possess that prevent our relationships from maturing, or maybe it's our women and their fear and ambivalent feelings toward men that eliminates even the possibility of them obtaining and sustaining a healthy relationship, either way it goes our generation has a severe problem that needs to be adressed.
Very recently my roommate and a group of her friends had a night together where an abundance of truths were expelled from each others mouths. Although I wasn't present for this event, I witnessed some of it's aftermath. As a result of a few bad men, the hearts of a few good women were possibly hardened with slight chances of recovery. Who suffers the consequences? Yes, the few good men we have left.
As men, our society enables us to treat our women in ways that damage them not physically but emotionally, causing our womens perception of men to be diminished and tainted ( lying, cheating, manipulating, and abusing). As men, we are allowed to be sexual deviants, women are pressured by men to be pure and innocent simultaneously persuaded to relinquish their purity and innocence to them just to advance their sexual fonteirs. After the mans conquest is completed he is allowed to seek another vessel to conquer with no regard for the condition of the vessel prior. This man is a weak man and will rely on this social instinct to prey on those weaker than he.
Women are born on the defensive, raised to sheild themselves from the heartaches, deceptions, and disappointments. Some are even raised to beleive that "all men are dogs" and can never be trusted. Like men, so few are raised with the correct knowledge and understanding of the roads of love and relationships. A woman is too often misguided in regards to relationships, often naive to the manipulations of the deviants that pursue conquest and are too often emotionally annihilated.
As a result of sub standard behavior from "bad men", the destruction of hope for a healthy relationship for women was born, which beget the ultimate struggle for the "good man". It's always been an argument as to who has it worse, males or females? honestly, I beleive that women have a harder time, however the "good man" has it the hardest. Not only does he have to seperate himself from the whole and prove himself worthy of a womans heart, he has to battle the womans "knights of the roundtable".
All of the insecurities, distrust, fear, pain, and lack of faith in men are all issues a man face trying to obtain a womans heart. Among that he has to deal with his own socialization, he has to deny all the things that perpetuate the "bad man" and risk ridicule from peers, being hurt, rejected, and at the same time stand alone as a "good man".
We as a young generation have to grasp the concept of building relationships not just assuming a relationship just works. Building a relationship requires patience to learn who the person is, understanding to know that person does not think like you and functions as an individual, forgiveness to be able to accept that that person has faults and will not please you 100% of the time, and boundaries to prevent yourself from giving too much of yourself that there is no balance of reciprocation within the relationship.
Very recently my roommate and a group of her friends had a night together where an abundance of truths were expelled from each others mouths. Although I wasn't present for this event, I witnessed some of it's aftermath. As a result of a few bad men, the hearts of a few good women were possibly hardened with slight chances of recovery. Who suffers the consequences? Yes, the few good men we have left.
As men, our society enables us to treat our women in ways that damage them not physically but emotionally, causing our womens perception of men to be diminished and tainted ( lying, cheating, manipulating, and abusing). As men, we are allowed to be sexual deviants, women are pressured by men to be pure and innocent simultaneously persuaded to relinquish their purity and innocence to them just to advance their sexual fonteirs. After the mans conquest is completed he is allowed to seek another vessel to conquer with no regard for the condition of the vessel prior. This man is a weak man and will rely on this social instinct to prey on those weaker than he.
Women are born on the defensive, raised to sheild themselves from the heartaches, deceptions, and disappointments. Some are even raised to beleive that "all men are dogs" and can never be trusted. Like men, so few are raised with the correct knowledge and understanding of the roads of love and relationships. A woman is too often misguided in regards to relationships, often naive to the manipulations of the deviants that pursue conquest and are too often emotionally annihilated.
As a result of sub standard behavior from "bad men", the destruction of hope for a healthy relationship for women was born, which beget the ultimate struggle for the "good man". It's always been an argument as to who has it worse, males or females? honestly, I beleive that women have a harder time, however the "good man" has it the hardest. Not only does he have to seperate himself from the whole and prove himself worthy of a womans heart, he has to battle the womans "knights of the roundtable".
All of the insecurities, distrust, fear, pain, and lack of faith in men are all issues a man face trying to obtain a womans heart. Among that he has to deal with his own socialization, he has to deny all the things that perpetuate the "bad man" and risk ridicule from peers, being hurt, rejected, and at the same time stand alone as a "good man".
We as a young generation have to grasp the concept of building relationships not just assuming a relationship just works. Building a relationship requires patience to learn who the person is, understanding to know that person does not think like you and functions as an individual, forgiveness to be able to accept that that person has faults and will not please you 100% of the time, and boundaries to prevent yourself from giving too much of yourself that there is no balance of reciprocation within the relationship.
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Communication: a relationships best friend
Communication: the "art" of conveying messages or sending information from one source to another.
Why this is important? Because it's a vital tool to keep others informed of necessary information. It allows people to make knowledgable decisions in circumstances that require specific information and in romantic relationships it is a necessary skill to prevent/dissolve issues that are sure to arise in relationships.
Communication is a fundamental tool that is often left behind in most relationships wether it be friendly or romantic. People are too often defeated by the fear of saying what's necessary in order to protect themselves from being the "bad guy" rather than just speaking out on what's right or conveying how they feel about a particular situation. People too often excercise the "ignorance is bliss philosophy" so they can have an excuse to say "well I didn't know" to avoid accountability for the circumstance. People have an easier time saying unnecessary things but can't even formulate a sentence when communication is vital.
Any romantic relationship you MUST communicate the necessary things in order to have functionality and longevity.
1. Honest communication of intentions, what is the aim or goal for your relationship.
2. Active communication of issues, most of the time problems start off small, they grow bigger if not adressed. Note: some things warrant compromise
3. Communicate appreciation and reassurance, some things need to be said even if you feel you show it. It will build trust and make communicating easier when it's something difficult to say
4.honesty honesty honesty, lies are never a good idea, mistakes are very forgivable if corrected, lies are blatant disrespect, display lack of character, destroys trust and integrity. A big No No!
Be very aware that men and women communicate in totally different ways almost as if they speak different languages. It takes a particular type of intimacy to decipher what each is saying in certain situations. For example... Men, when women are communicating their problems to you, it's not necessarily her asking you for your expert problem solving techniques, she's asking for your ear and understanding for comfort and compassion. Ladies a mans lack of communication isn't always a sign of detachment from you, a man is often quiet and distanst when he is having problems that he is contemplating dillegently to solve. There is no need to chase him an make him vent to you, he'll be back.
That's one of men and womens major miscommunications, therefore proving why it's necessary for men and women to be active in learning communication. Patience and understanding is key to developing communication skiils aswell as familiarity with yourself in order to effectively process what's being conveyed to you and what you need to convey to others.. Think about it
Why this is important? Because it's a vital tool to keep others informed of necessary information. It allows people to make knowledgable decisions in circumstances that require specific information and in romantic relationships it is a necessary skill to prevent/dissolve issues that are sure to arise in relationships.
Communication is a fundamental tool that is often left behind in most relationships wether it be friendly or romantic. People are too often defeated by the fear of saying what's necessary in order to protect themselves from being the "bad guy" rather than just speaking out on what's right or conveying how they feel about a particular situation. People too often excercise the "ignorance is bliss philosophy" so they can have an excuse to say "well I didn't know" to avoid accountability for the circumstance. People have an easier time saying unnecessary things but can't even formulate a sentence when communication is vital.
Any romantic relationship you MUST communicate the necessary things in order to have functionality and longevity.
1. Honest communication of intentions, what is the aim or goal for your relationship.
2. Active communication of issues, most of the time problems start off small, they grow bigger if not adressed. Note: some things warrant compromise
3. Communicate appreciation and reassurance, some things need to be said even if you feel you show it. It will build trust and make communicating easier when it's something difficult to say
4.honesty honesty honesty, lies are never a good idea, mistakes are very forgivable if corrected, lies are blatant disrespect, display lack of character, destroys trust and integrity. A big No No!
Be very aware that men and women communicate in totally different ways almost as if they speak different languages. It takes a particular type of intimacy to decipher what each is saying in certain situations. For example... Men, when women are communicating their problems to you, it's not necessarily her asking you for your expert problem solving techniques, she's asking for your ear and understanding for comfort and compassion. Ladies a mans lack of communication isn't always a sign of detachment from you, a man is often quiet and distanst when he is having problems that he is contemplating dillegently to solve. There is no need to chase him an make him vent to you, he'll be back.
That's one of men and womens major miscommunications, therefore proving why it's necessary for men and women to be active in learning communication. Patience and understanding is key to developing communication skiils aswell as familiarity with yourself in order to effectively process what's being conveyed to you and what you need to convey to others.. Think about it
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