Another awful truth

The prevalent declination of faith of obtaining a solid relaionship in our peers has made the "free flowing" relationship ever so prominent amongst our generation. Thoughts of building solid relationships with another is slowly fading out of the hearts and minds of the many that surround us, why? Is it because our male and female counterparts lack the tools and fundamentals that are essential in building or strenghtening the foundations they place their relationships on? Maybe it's the lack of integrity our men possess that prevent our relationships from maturing, or maybe it's our women and their fear and ambivalent feelings toward men that eliminates even the possibility of them obtaining and sustaining a healthy relationship, either way it goes our generation has a severe problem that needs to be adressed.

Very recently my roommate and a group of her friends had a night together where an abundance of truths were expelled from each others mouths. Although I wasn't present for this event, I witnessed some of it's aftermath. As a result of a few bad men, the hearts of a few good women were possibly hardened with slight chances of recovery. Who suffers the consequences? Yes, the few good men we have left. 

As men, our society enables us to treat our women in ways that damage them not physically but emotionally, causing our womens perception of men to be diminished and tainted ( lying, cheating, manipulating, and abusing). As men, we are allowed to be sexual deviants, women are pressured by men to be pure and innocent simultaneously persuaded to relinquish their purity and innocence to them just to advance their sexual fonteirs. After the mans conquest is completed he is allowed to seek another vessel to conquer with no regard for the condition of the vessel prior. This man is a weak man and will rely on this social instinct to prey on those weaker than he.  

Women are born on the defensive, raised to sheild themselves from the heartaches, deceptions, and disappointments. Some are even raised to beleive that "all men are dogs" and can never be trusted. Like men, so few are raised with the correct knowledge and understanding of the roads of love and relationships. A woman is too often misguided in regards to relationships, often naive to the manipulations of the deviants that pursue conquest and are too often emotionally annihilated.

As a result of sub standard behavior from "bad men", the destruction of hope for a healthy relationship for women was born, which beget the ultimate struggle for the "good man". It's always been an argument as to who has it worse, males or females? honestly, I beleive that women have a harder time, however the "good man" has it the hardest. Not only does he have to seperate himself from the whole and prove himself worthy of a womans heart, he has to battle the womans "knights of the roundtable".      
All of the insecurities, distrust, fear, pain, and lack of faith in men are all issues a man face trying to obtain a womans heart. Among that he has to deal with his own socialization, he has to deny all the things that perpetuate the "bad man" and risk ridicule from peers, being hurt, rejected, and at the same time stand alone as a "good man".

We as a young generation have to grasp the concept of building relationships not just assuming a relationship just works. Building a relationship requires patience to learn who the person is, understanding to know that person does not think like you and functions as an individual, forgiveness to be able to accept that that person has faults and will not please you 100% of the time, and boundaries to prevent yourself from giving too much of yourself that there is no balance of reciprocation within the relationship.       

Communication: a relationships best friend

Communication: the "art" of conveying messages or sending information from one source to another. 

Why this is important? Because it's a vital tool to keep others informed of necessary information. It allows people to make knowledgable decisions in circumstances that require specific information and in romantic relationships it is a necessary skill to prevent/dissolve issues that are sure to arise in relationships.

Communication is a fundamental tool that is often left behind in most relationships wether it be friendly or romantic. People are too often defeated by the fear of saying what's necessary in order to protect themselves from being the "bad guy" rather than just speaking out on what's right or conveying how they feel about a particular situation. People too often excercise the "ignorance is bliss philosophy" so they can have an excuse to say "well I didn't know" to avoid accountability for the circumstance.  People have an easier time saying unnecessary things but can't even formulate a sentence when communication is vital.

Any romantic relationship you MUST communicate the necessary things in order to have functionality and longevity.
1. Honest communication of intentions, what is the aim or goal for your relationship. 
2. Active communication of issues, most of the time problems start off small, they grow bigger if not adressed. Note: some things warrant compromise
3. Communicate appreciation and reassurance, some things need to be said even if you feel you show it. It will build trust and make communicating easier when it's something difficult to say
4.honesty honesty honesty, lies are never a good idea, mistakes are very forgivable if corrected, lies are blatant disrespect, display lack of character, destroys trust and integrity. A big No No!

Be very aware that men and women communicate in totally different ways almost as if they speak different languages. It takes a particular type of intimacy to decipher what each is saying in certain situations. For example... Men, when women are communicating their problems to you, it's not necessarily her asking you for your expert problem solving techniques, she's asking for your ear and understanding for comfort and compassion. Ladies a mans lack of communication isn't always a sign of detachment from you, a man is often quiet and distanst when he is having problems that he is contemplating dillegently to solve. There is no need to chase him an make him vent to you, he'll be back. 

That's one of men and womens major miscommunications, therefore proving why it's necessary for men and women to be active in learning communication. Patience and understanding is key to developing communication skiils aswell as familiarity with yourself in order to effectively process what's being conveyed to you and what you need to convey to others.. Think about it   


 

Crucifiction

The realest truth I'll ever know
That your love became my greatest foe
It beat me bare down to my bone
Snatched the light right out my soul
I yearned and howled to be loosed
I feared my resort lied in a noose
The pain and aches your love gave
Sent me spiraling towards my grave
Nightmares now opress my dreams
Midnight sweats awake midbreath screams
Lonely tears full of pain and fears
Shut down my love slowed all it's gears
The evolution of my misery
Was not a quiet profound mystery 
It came ever so slow ever so prominent
I was naive it was my bed I chose to lie in it
The day you let yourself give up on me
Became the night that love crucified me
High upon the cross for love
No ground below no sky above
There was no knowledge of what this meant
Just the pain left over from loves abandonment
I died that moment high in suspension
A victim of the pain from loves crucifiction
 

 
 

Attached

The chain attached to your heart attached to the stake posted in the ground of your past, free yourself if you want this to last
There is a promised attached to this love I have to give, attach yours to it a healing powerful enough to set you free at last
There is a beauty attached to you so profound that words couldn't even express you, it's being shadowed by the fear that deafens an blinds you, attach yourself to love and let your light shine through you
A winter is cold but there is a shelter to warm you
A summer is hot but there is a shade to cool you
Your legs become weak but these arms are here to carry you
Release your love from the bondage that confines you
Show the path to you heart so the right love can find you
Let this love be the rhythm that rhymes you
Attached to a love that was wrong
Left you suffering long
Attach yourself to a love that is longsuffering, wise and strong 
And you'll find it was the right way all along 

Love trigonometry

 How can a love so gorgeous turn and be so violent, how can I lose somethin I thought to be timeless, I gave it all I had but my heart was a minus, the plus was the bullshit and it left us both divided
Now the conditions of our hearts just adds up to silence
My heart was your target and every shot you took equaled to a dodge or a miss... From me
Little did I see that the greater than was you and the less than was me
The solution to this problem was by a factor of three.. An open mind from you, an open heart from me and effective communication could have set us both free
For us to be we stick to the following
You plus me equals m(x) plus C
M being "more" times x , "x" bein what it takes to love and C being more communication from you to me 
It doesn't take much to figure out this love trigonometry 

Solitary heart

You my solitary heart, soiled by the lies of the world, beaten by the betrayal of love done wrong, I swear you and I will never part. Our longsuffering journey to your mate, over the mountains of insecurities, through the valleys of diceit, we'll conquer any challenge to meet our fate. Your duty to keep singing your song, my job to shelter you and carry you along. Closer and closer to a love, to a heart who's song matches your own, my lonely heart oh how you've grown, Your bruises gone, your scars healed and to think you thought love is what you feared. Coming over this horizon you're racing time, I hear you whisper soon she'll be mine, even if they stopped the world my love will suffer no demise. solitary heart with a solitary love I'll carry you through night I'll carry you through shine, I'll carry you through death I'll carry you through time.  

Rest in peace baby sis and cuz I miss you

Baby bull, baby bee where are you going? You are not ready to be on your own yet, you and the ground have just barely met. Your hooves are soft and your wings are weak, these roads are tuff and these winds are strong, just wait, just wait, it won't be long. It won't be long until u get your chance, your chance to roam your chance to fly, your chance to live your chance to love, your chance to try all of the above. Wait!, why won't you wait? Where are u going, what's over there, wait baby bull u hardly have hair. baby bee wait for me, its cold out there can't u see? You are going too far please come back, hold on I cannot see, why won't you two speak to me? You have gone too far I cannot follow, I do not know what dangers you face, Why must you tred those creepy hollows? Ill wait all night for you to come home, you two are out there all alone, I know your hooves are worn and your wings must rest I can only pray for the best. I wake up, I had been sleeping, I find a bird who had been weeping. Little bird why does your eyes cry those cries? dear people I've been here since break waiting for u to wake, I have a news but for it u must wait. A news from who young swallow? Dear people why its from the hollow. Could it be my dear bull and bee? Well What was said to me, it was a group of friends you see, unknown to me is their identity. I am here u must trail beyond this land into the wood. I as a whole cannot go, take my eyes and they shall show. for I as a whole cannot sustain such a blow. Hours went by not a sound nor a breeze, where was the tiny swallow? Here I am dear people, here, there u go, now do u see? Your eyes will speak honestly. No! no!, my dear bee, my dear bull why did u not hear my plea? I do not want this vision my eyes now see, I do not want this truth that has come to be, take this pain away from me. It is yours to hold and yours alone, but thru this pain u must grow, hold fast to the redeemer, do not hear the deceiver. Open your eyes and keep your sight, if they are closed u cannot see the light. They were here by day gone by night, but keep in your heart baby bull and baby bee are alright.